When It’s Time to Move On

You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind

Dear beautiful souls,

We have the right to outgrow past versions of ourselves. So why do so many of us stay in relationships, jobs, or situations long past their expiration date—just because we’ve already invested so much time?

We tell ourselves:

I’ve been here too long to leave now.

I’ve already invested years into this.

Nothing is technically wrong… so why do I feel like this isn’t enough?

But here’s the truth: Nothing you’ve done, nothing you’ve experienced, and nothing you’ve given your time to is ever a waste. It brought you here. It shaped you. It helped you grow. But that doesn’t mean you’re meant to stay.

One of my clients had been in a relationship for 11 years, engaged to a great guy. Nothing was wrong. They were solid. They worked well together. But deep inside, something felt… off. Not bad, just stagnant.

She wanted more. More life. More depth. More passion. Her spirit kept nudging her, whispering, then eventually shouting that she had outgrown the relationship.

But leaving felt impossible.

How could she walk away when everything was fine?

How could she justify starting over at 40?

Wouldn’t that mean all those years were wasted?

Through our work together, she realized those years weren’t wasted—they were honored. That relationship was part of her journey. But honoring it didn’t mean staying. It meant letting go when the cycle was complete.

Of course, getting there wasn’t easy. She had to quiet the scared voice inside—the one that told her she was making a mistake, the one that confused comfort with alignment. She had to untangle the truth: her fiancé was a good person, but she had outgrown the relationship.

And so, she left. And now? She’s living a life that actually lights her up. Not a perfect life. But a life that matches the version of herself she was afraid to embrace.

Another client spent years dreaming of moving to another country. She imagined a new city, new energy, new opportunities. But leaving felt reckless. She had built something successful. People would question her.

What if it didn’t work?

But the call wouldn’t stop. And eventually, she stopped resisting.

She worked hard to let go of the version of her life she thought she was supposed to have.

She grieved it.

She feared it. But she left.

The job, the comfort, the known.

And now? She’s living the life she always knew was meant for her. Not perfect. But hers. A life that finally matches that inner yearning—the one that was always calling her forward.

And this is what so many of us don’t realize: It’s not always the fear of failure that keeps us stuck. It’s the fear of an unknown future. A version of ourselves we don’t fully trust yet.

Because we’ve learned to be more loyal to the past than to the possibility of who we could become.

But here’s the thing—you’re allowed to change your mind.

You’re allowed to want more.

You’re allowed to start over.

And sometimes? You have to be a little delusional about it. Logic won’t always support you. But your SOUL will.

And if you don’t listen? Life will make the choice for you. The relationship will feel unbearable. The job will drain you. The discomfort will grow. Because when it’s time to move, it’s time to move.

So now, ask yourself:

Where in your life have you been ignoring the nudge to leave?

If you weren’t afraid of wasting time, what decision would you make today?

Sit with that. And then… decide.

Because your next chapter? It’s already waiting for you.

Sometimes the soul whispers before it roars.

Whether it’s a relationship, a role, or an old version of yourself that no longer fits, those subtle inner nudges are sacred. As a spiritual guide and mentor, I work with people who are standing on that edge, ready to grow, afraid to leap.

In my holistic integrative coaching, we don’t just talk about goals. We explore alignment. We track the energy. We grieve what’s no longer working and bless it on its way. Sometimes we use energy healing to clear what’s stuck, or lean into ancestral healing when the resistance isn’t even ours to carry.

Because healing isn’t always about fixing.

Sometimes it’s about finally listening.

And then choosing differently.

So if you're in a season of transition, trust the whisper. It’s not too late. You’re not too far in. You’re not behind. You’re simply at the threshold of becoming someone new.

And that becoming?

It’s not the end of your story

It’s the beginning.

If you know a person who might benefit from this message, please feel free to share and amplify.

WITH LOVE,

Hasani